Self-esteem is usually the foundation of almost all psychological problems. The ability to value yourself, take yourself into account, treat yourself well, and trust yourself. We learn this ability when, as children, we are valued, considered and treated well by the significant people in our environment and when we have good models to learn from.
Many times, if this fails, we try to fill this gap with the external factors on which we base our feeling of self – appearance, money, a good job, friends, etc. However, external factors are labile and may be short-lived. Money and beauty can be lost. Self-confidence must be intrinsic and relatively stable. In therapy, we can and even should build or restore it because without it, our perception of the world is often distorted and contributes to creating psychological distress.